March 2021
Woman On Dating App: A.J., before we go any further, there's something I need to tell you.
Me: Okay.
Woman: I'm short.
Me: OK.
Woman: I'm a dwarf.
Me: Girl, don't insult yourself!
Woman: No, I mean....I'm a "little person." I'm 4'7. I have dwarfism. Do you still want to meet me?
My face while reading this revelation.
I’ve never been shy around women. In fact, I learned in Kindergarten that the ladies love a man who can dance like Michael Jackson, so I kept on doing it and added more antics to my charm over the years.
I never felt the need to try online dating because I was always good at flirting in person. Well, in the midst of the Doritto Jesse Jackson Pandemic (that sounds better than saying Covid 19, right?) online dating suddenly became an option worth considering. After all, I was divorced and a single parent to an (adorable) foster child at the time, so I decided to give it a go. Between my smile and the pictures of my foster son (who was barely two months at the time) it wasn’t long before I got attention.
I never felt the need to try online dating because I was always good at flirting in person. Well, in the midst of the Doritto Jesse Jackson Pandemic (that sounds better than saying Covid 19, right?) online dating suddenly became an option worth considering. After all, I was divorced and a single parent to an (adorable) foster child at the time, so I decided to give it a go. Between my smile and the pictures of my foster son (who was barely two months at the time) it wasn’t long before I got attention.
Facebook Dating App
First, I tried the Facebook dating app. Hey, if it's free, it's for me. The app is pretty simple. Like Tinder, you swipe left or right on other users. And, you can't communicate with anyone until you "match." Users can also add their Instagram photos to their profiles.
However, with the app being free, it also attracts evil doers who enjoy doing dastardly deeds.
As with any online dating app, Catfishing is possible, and some people will upload fake profiles in an attempt to scam money out of you. Also, the Facebook dating app is only an app, so it cannot be accessed on a computer. Eh, I'm kind of old school. I keep my cell phone on me like everyone else these days, but I prefer to use a computer overall, especially for this kind of thing.
I personally don't think any dating app is a sure thing, but if you want to meet someone and have a serious relationship, you might have to pull out that credit card. I've had more people waste my time on the FB app than any other app, but that's been my experience. I'd suggest using it for hookups.
Match.com
It wasn't long before I realized I would have to spend some money to meet people of better quality who were genuine about finding love. A friend of mine met his wife on Match.com, so I gave it a shot.
I don’t have much to say about Match.com. In my experiences, most of the people I came across were more interested in hook-ups. One lady found me on Match and was in my apartment that same night. But in any case, I think you'll find a relationship easier on Eharmony than Match.com or Facebook.
Eharmony
You’ve seen the commercials for years. I always wondered if Eharmony was as legit as they say. This was my first time being single in 14 years, so I found myself in position to give it a shot, especially since I couldn’t find any serious prospects on Facebook and Match.com
At first, Eharmony felt kind of lonely. I felt like I was the only person on there! It was like a ghost town and I thought I wasted my money. But things picked up quickly. Again, pictures of my infant foster son was reeling the ladies in.
Women on the app: You're a foster father! OMG you have such a big heart! What a man!
Me: Yes, I have a big heart...and oh, it's so lonely! And I don't know what the hell I'm doing with this drooling baby.
Women on the app: Let me cum over and help you...
Me: :)
I think Eharmony is probably the best of the bunch. The site takes a different approach to online dating.
When you first register, you take a detailed 45-minute questionnaire. Your answers will match you up with like-minded prospects. Unlike Match.com and most other apps, Eharmony doesn’t allow you to search for people - the algorithm does it for you based on your personality. That's why the site felt lonely to me in the beginning - the only people you see are your matches. And well, if you have specific preferences like I do, you won't have many matches to view.
After you spend 25 years of your life doing the personality test, your personality traits are charted. You can compare yours to your matches and see how you match up in many distinct categories. It's very detailed, and you'll likely learn a lot not just about your matches but yourself.
On Eharmony, you can answer “getting to know you” type questions on your profile that your prospects can read.
“If I am in a bad mood, I……”
“My ideal first date…..”
“I spend my free time……”
So if you’re uncomfortable writing a lengthy introduction about yourself, you can answer the questions to let your matches learn about you.
In my experiences on Eharmony, many of the women are serious about finding long-term romance. That’s the good news. However, many women who contacted me live in other parts of the country or the world. Gorgeous, gorgeous women and we had some great conversations.
But.....I’m just being honest - I’m not interested in having a long distance relationship with someone in Jamaica or California. It’s just not convenient. There's a shortage of women registered for Eharmony in my area who are in my preferences. That, to me, is the main disadvantage of the site.
It's probably best to meet someone in person over a dating app. But, if I were forced to pick an app to use and find a lasting relationship, I would roll with Eharmony.
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